You feel guilty.
You shouldn’t work that much; should earn more money; should be in the office earlier; should spend more time with family.
You should get a new car; should appreciate your things more.
You should go out more; shouldn’t spend so much.
The tyranny of should.
Maybe, just maybe, it all begins with getting rid of should.
Cut yourself some slack. Accept your current state. Enjoy it.
Lasting change occurs when initiated from a point of joy rather than one of bitterness or desperation.
Sure, you should have some degree of dissatisfaction with the current state of affairs, but differentiate the external from the internal. In other words, change because of your circumstances not who you are.